Tips on Customizing Your Vows
you will take on writing the vows together or alone. If writing it alone,
you may want to take turns running them by each other before the big day.
Make sure that you both have approximately the same length of text so that
one person isn't rambling on for five minutes while the other says ten
marriage means to you. Discuss with your fiance important events and
turning points in your relationship such as how you met, when you fell in
love, when and how you said, "I love you," and any breakups (and
make-ups) that you've endured. List the qualities you most admire in your loved
one, and characteristics that he or she brings out in you.
Divulge what marrying really means to you.
Make your vows
funny and warm, but not cryptic or embarrassing -- they should reflect the
magnitude of the commitment you are about to make. Your vows should not
drag on and on. Be concise and get to the core of what marrying that
person means to you. Eliminate any redundancies or extra words. Save some
words for the toast (and the honeymoon night, of course). Remember, less
is oftentimes more.
Be sure to
review these with your officiant in advance of your wedding.